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Thursday, August 3, 2017

Personal tag: From one blogger to another

   I'm sure you've seen the announcements going around! Awards for blogger recognition, Versatile award and even personal tags. These are really neat "awards" as the recognize the blogger itself and all the work they do. The personal tag allows you to gain some insight into the persona of the blogger. They are fun and let's be honest, a great way to get recognized. I was tagged by the very inspiring Anne of Rooting Branches. Thanks Anne for tagging me!!! I have to answer a series of questions and in turn tag other bloggers with my own questions. Sounds easy right? OK,  Lets's get started, shall we??!!

1. What are your favorite type of blog posts to read?
Being a mom, that's probably my number one go to blog. I love when they speak from the heart but also are fun to read. I'm a pretty laid back yet serious mom. I joke a lot and find the humor in certain situations. I relate more to moms who go through parenthood with their blinders off. The world is not cookie cutter and I don't sugar coat anything. I also read a lot of Mental Illness blogs. I can really relate to those since I have a form of depression and anxiety. Those types of blogs really call to me.

2. Which social media platform do you favor? Why?
Wait? I have to pick just one platform??? This is going to be harder than I thought!!! As a blogger, I'd have to say Facebook but Twitter is a close second. I love using social media to get my content out there. Now I do use Instagram too but unfortunately they just don't have the option to link an individual post to an article you publish. As a blogger, you need to publish and rework your content to get noticed. It's all about how you use social media that counts.

3. What's your choice of cheat food?
Ice cream! I mean really what's not to love? I'm more into the creaminess of soft serve ice cream, though. Kind of like what Dairy Queen offers. Speaking of which, whenever I go there I have to get and ice cream sundae with hot fudge and caramel. It is in my opinion, to die for. I mean not literally but you know what I mean. It's simply delish!

4. What is the most important thing a person can do to improve themselves?
I think that most important thing someone can do to improve themselves, is to really take note of why you need to change. Improve yourself for you, not for others. I want to improve myself personally through my academics. that means I need to focus on the tasks ahead of me and set aside time to really study. Everyone is different on how they want to improve themselves. Recognize what you want to improve and set your goals.

5. How would you define your style in 5 words?
In five words!!!??? Ok here goes: Practical, comfortable, mom-chic, neutral, flowy

6. What was one of the best days of your life?
I don't really have one best day. I actually have 6 best days. Those days are when each one of my children were born.

7. What skill or craft would you like to master?
I'm a hobby crocheter. I love doing it but I don't really have the time to take to the craft seriously. I can make simple scarves, hats, pot holders, and blankets. I can't make anything real elaborate though. I'd really like to take some time to develop my skill adequately.

8. What are your biggest likes and dislikes of the blogging community?
I'd have to say my biggest likes in the blogging community are meeting new bloggers and how welcoming some are. I love when other bloggers are willing to share your work to their social media to help you get recognized. The down side or my dislike of the blogging community is that not everyone is so welcoming. I found that some bloggers only think about themselves.When a blogger won't share your content because it doesn't fall into their niche. I for one will share all blog niches, even if it doesn't fall into the mom lifestyle niche. It doesn't matter. I want to help other bloggers out there, so I feel in my heart it's only right for others to do the same as well.

9. Is there anything that you hoard?
I don't necessarily hoard anything. I do collect things though. I love collecting angel figurines. I have them scattered all over my house. I'm also a sock person. Crazy socks are the best! I have some socks that are just plain little ankle socks, but my favorites are the ones with crazy designs or pictures on them. I probably have over 75 pairs of socks.

10. What makes a person beautiful?
Their underlying personality. You can be gorgeous/ handsome on the outside but if you have an ugly personality then you aren't worth my time. Being beautiful to means having a beautiful soul.

11. What keeps you blogging?
The fun of it. I'm not a blogger who has to post a new article every day or even every week. I have a life. I have a husband and kids. I go to school and with one car, I'm the glorified taxi. My 2 youngest are being home-schooled for this upcoming school year. Blogging is not my life, my family is. With that being said. I blog because I want my voice heard. I'm not saying i'm unique but I am saying that other moms/ dads can maybe relate to what I go through. Some of article have a dose of humor attached to it so, I hope they can come away from reading my blog, saying they can relate with a huge smile on their face. My kids keep me blogging, because with out them, I probably wouldn't have one. I also love writing. I try to write from the heart and my hope is that, my readers can feel that.

Now that I'm done, here are the rules:

1. Answer the 11 questions that were asked by the person who tagged you.

2. Come up with a new round of questions for the people you tag.

3. Tag 11 people with under 200 followers or a small following.

I'm tagging:

Amanda ⥤ Everydayamanda.com
Brooks Oscarson Our Parent Place
Ams To you, from A
JodyIt's Fantabulous
Alicia BakerAlicia's Planet
MimiGlitz & Glitter
Sarah Sarahbobbeal
PeskyWomanPesky Women
Jenn This Mommy is Real
Shari Diary of a SoCal Mom
Nina LaneChaos in Mommyhood

Here are your questions:

  1. How did you come up with your niche or theme of your blog?
  2. Everyone has a favorite/least favorite post. Name yours and why?
  3. What do you do when you aren’t working on your blog?
  4. What is the best compliment you ever received?
  5. If you could have personally witnessed anything, what would you want to have seen?
  6. What do you find most challenging about blogging about your topic?
  7. What’s the best thing a blogger can give to his/her readers?
  8. What type of music do you listen to?
  9. What is your favorite word? Your least favorite?
  10. Who is your hero?
  11. If someone was interested in blogging, what would be a few things you would suggest?

Best Wishes, Michelle

Friday, July 14, 2017

Finally getting Hitched! How I'm pulling off my wedding in less than a month and on a tight budget.

As everyone knows, I have been engaged to be married for awhile now but my fiance' and I had never really set a date. As a couple we just naturally introduced each other as husband and wife in all aspects of our life. With all the stress and chaos in our lives a date for our wedding just kept getting pushed to the side. Approximately 2 weeks ago, we decided that we just really needed to make our marriage legally official without all the hoopla involved in planning a big wedding. So a small, simple ceremony was decided upon. We would only invite our immediate family and our best friends. We would have no more than 25 people in attendance and keep it as affordable as possible. Oh and I have less than a month to plan it, since we set the date for August 4th of 2017.

Could I really pull it off? Well, I for one think I can. I reserved a beautiful gazebo that sits right by Lake Michigan. It cost me $50 to rent it for 3 hours. Since we are not going all outrageous there is no need for music, chairs, tables, and alcohol. It's literally a ceremony, some pictures and maybe some cake eating. Nothing huge. So anyway, $50 for 3 hours and a great backdrop is perfect for us. Our officiant is a friend of the family. He charges anywhere from $100 to more depending on the ceremony type. We are doing a sand unity ceremony. My colors are cornflower blue and mint. Basically blue and green. I went to Hobby Lobby and bought 2 containers of sand, and 2 ready made boutonnieres, and a few pins. I was ecstatic when I saw that everything wedding was 50% off. The sand was $1.50 each, the boutonnieres were $1.50 each and the pins $1.00. I want to make my own bridal bouquet but sadly they didn't have the right colors. So, I tried Michael's. They had some lovely ready made bouquets but sadly they were just too dark for me. All fall colors were coming out and I didn't want that. I also needed a container to put the unity sand in but I couldn't find one I liked.

 I left empty handed. I went to pick up Eric from work to show him what I had bought and arranged in just one day. Upon pulling out the unity sand for closer inspection,  I realized I had bought 2 different shades of blue. I looked every where for green unity sand, even on Hobby Lobby and Michael's website. I came up empty. I realized I would probably have to shop Amazon to find what I needed, especially since I still couldn't find the correct flowers I wanted. After looking around for a bit, I found a 22oz bag of mint colored unity sand for $11.97. Yes a bit more than I wanted to pay but hey, it was the color I needed. I also figured while I was at it look at some flowers for bouquets or ready made bouquets. I found so many ready made bouquets, it made my head spin. I put a ton of the bouquets in my cart so I could look a bit closer at them later. I also still needed to be on the look out for some type of container to put the sand in.

 Eric decided it was his mission to find that unique item that seemed to be out of our reach. After some intense searching on his part, he found an hourglass. Yes, that's right an hourglass that you can fill with your own unity sand for your wedding ceremony. He found it on Oriental Trading company and it was $29.99. With shipping it came to $39.98. Not to bad, since this is going to be with us forever. With that item taken care of I needed to get back to the ordering flowers business. I went through each of the bouquets that I had put into my cart. It was decided I would purchase 2 bouquets for $13.99 each. I also needed a clip for my hair and I found a perfect one for $9.98. I bought the unity sand, 2 bouquets and the hair clip for a total of $34.04 due to my prime membership and using my rewards points from my Amazon credit card. Now, I still have to pay my officiant and apply for our marriage license which are $100 each, plus Eric wants to buy a new shirt for the big day. As for me I already have my dress so no need to go out and buy a new one. Bonus, I'm making either a cake or cupcakes for our wedding day, which is saving us money there too.

Here's my items and cost so far:
2 containers unity sand, 2 boutonnieres, and a package of pins Cost: $7.35
Gazebo rental Cost: $50
Hourglass container for Unity sand Cost: $39.98
22 oz of Unity Sand, 2 Bouquets, and 1 flower hair clip Cost: $34.04

Items still needed:
Officiant Cost: $100
Marriage License Cost: $100            
Eric Shirt Approximate Cost: $30
Cake Cost: I'm making it

Total running cost:

I'm not posting pictures of the items ordered as those are surprises. If you want to know specifics you can definitely email at anytime.

Too me that's not to bad. Sure I could ditch the flowers and the hair clip but it is our special day. I can definitely organize a wedding in less than a month and under a $500 budget.

What kinds of ways did you save for your wedding day?  Was it a big wedding or small wedding? Tell me in the comments area below!

Wednesday, June 28, 2017

What's your parenting style?

Studies have found 4 major styles of parenting: Authoritarian, Permissive, Authoritative, and Uninvolved. Check out the four types below to get a better understanding of each style. Take the quiz to see where your parenting style lies.

Authoritarian parenting is an approach to child rearing that is characterized by high behavioral standards, strict punishment of misconduct, and little communication from child to parent. Authoritarian parenting is a style characterized by high demands and low responsiveness. Parents with an authoritarian style have very high expectations of their children, yet provide very little in the way of feedback and nurturance. The authoritarian parent's word is law, not to be questioned. Mistakes tend to be punished harshly. When feedback does occur, it is often negative. Yelling and corporal punishment are also commonly seen with the authoritarian style.

Permissive parenting is an approach to child rearing that is characterized by high nurturance and communication but little discipline, guidance, or control. Permissive parenting is a type of parenting style characterized by low demands with high responsiveness. Permissive parents tend to be very loving, yet provide few guidelines and rules. Permissive parents make few demands, hiding any impatience they may feel. These parents do not expect mature behavior from their children and often seem more like a friend than a parental figure. These parents tend to be the polar opposite of the so-called "helicopter parents." Instead of hovering over their children's every move, permissive parents are incredibly lax and rarely make or enforce any type of rules or structure. Their motto is often simply that "kids will be kids." While they are usually warm and loving, they make little or no attempt to control or discipline their kids. Because there are few rules, expectations and demands, children raised by permissive parents tend to struggle with self-regulation and self-control.

Authoritative parenting is an approach to child rearing in which the parents set limits and enforce rules but are flexible and listen to their children. Authoritative parenting is a style characterized by reasonable demands and high responsiveness. While authoritative parents might have high expectations for their children, these parents also give their kids the resources and support they need to succeed. Parents who exhibit this style listen to their kids and provide love and warmth in addition to limits and fair discipline. They consider themselves guides, not authorities and not friends.  The authoritative parenting style is usually identified as the most effective. Kids raised by authoritative parents have strong self-regulations skills, self-confidence, and happier attitudes.

Neglectful/ Uninvolved parenting is an approach to child rearing in which parents seem indifferent toward their children, not knowing or caring about their child's lives. Their children can do whatever they want, which makes observers think the parents are permissive. The difference is that permissive parents care very much about their children, unlike neglectful parents. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive or even completely neglectful. These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their children's lives. The degree of involvement may vary considerably. Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others may be downright neglectful or even reject their children outright.

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Tuesday, June 27, 2017

Warning: Why Ma Nature is such a freaking B****

My body hates me. I admit it. She is a cold hearted bitch, who has no care in the world, that I'm suffering through all the endless shit she puts me through. Take a "normal" month for me. For about 2 weeks, I'm ok. I have a few aches and pains but nothing I can't handle. Then I have a week of PMS symptoms so bad, it can be down right debilitating. Then Ma Nature swoops in and lays her almighty fist in my nether regions and it's lights out for me.  This past week was a real doozy for me. I got completely knocked on my ass. I was fine last week. In fact, I was great. Better than great... I was in such a terrific mood. Then I started feeling sick and I knew what was coming. The dreaded PERIOD was on her happy little merry way and I couldn't stop her. I tried! I fought like hell. I told that bitch to go back from where she came from. I bitched and moaned. Nothing worked. I could feel myself wearing down. I was throwing up, I couldn't eat, my pelvis was cramping and throttling so hard you would have thought Elvis was in the room. I started to get a fever and lost all concentration. I was down for the count. Ma Nature got me in her clutches and she wasn't letting go. You might be saying, "Well every woman deals with that." My answer is yes, but I have some real medical conditions that not every woman has. So what exactly do I have, you ask? Well, I'm glad you asked that question.

I have a few different conditions which can be somewhat overwhelming. Here are my conditions in no uncertain order: endometriosis, dysmenorrhea, premenstrual syndrome, post tubal ligation syndrome,premenstrual dysphoric disorder, menorrhagia, a tilted uterus, and suffer from ovarian cysts. Plus I have a compromised immune system due to my severe asthma and allergies and I have Dysthymia and situational anxiety disorder. I know, I know! It's a mouth full, right? What exactly is all that, I'm sure you are probably asking. Well, I'm here to give you little breakdown of what exactly I deal with. 

Dysthymia and Anxiety Disorder
I've talked about my Dysthymia and anxiety disorder in another article I had written. Basically Dysthymia, also known as persistent depressive disorder (PDD), is a mood disorder consisting of the same cognitive and physical problems as in depression, with less severe but longer-lasting symptoms. 
Symptoms of Dysthymic disorder include:
  • a poor appetite or overeating,
  • difficulty sleeping or sleeping too much, 
  • low energy, 
  • fatigue and 
  • feelings of hopelessness. 
The term "anxiety disorder" includes generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), panic disorder and panic attacks, agoraphobia, social anxiety disorder, selective mutism, separation anxiety, and specific phobias. People with generalized anxiety disorder display excessive anxiety or worry for months and face several anxiety-related symptoms.
Generalized anxiety disorder symptoms include:
  • Restlessness or feeling wound-up or on edge
  • Being easily fatigued
  • Difficulty concentrating or having their minds go blank
  • Irritability
  • Muscle tension
  • Difficulty controlling the worry
  • Sleep problems (difficulty falling or staying asleep or restless, unsatisfying sleep)
Treatment options are usually anti depressants, beta blockers, and therapy. Sometimes you have to try different types of medications to find the right drug that works.

Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder (PMDD) is a condition in which a woman has severe depression symptoms, irritability, and tension before menstruation. The symptoms of PMDD are more severe than those seen with premenstrual syndrome (PMS). PMS refers to a wide range of physical or emotional symptoms that most often occur about 5 to 11 days before a woman starts her monthly menstrual cycle. In most cases, the symptoms stop when, or shortly after, her period begins.
Many women with this condition have:
  • Anxiety
  • Severe depression
  • Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
  • Other factors that may play a role include:
  • Alcohol or substance abuse
  • Thyroid disorders
  • Being overweight
  • Having a mother with a history of the disorder
  • Lack of exercise
Here is a list of common PMDD symptoms:
  • Lack of interest in daily activities and relationships
  • Fatigue or low energy
  • Sadness or hopelessness, possibly thoughts of suicide
  • Anxiety
  • Out of control feeling
  • Food cravings or binge eating
  • Mood swings with bouts of crying
  • Panic attacks
  • Irritability or anger that affects other people
  • Bloating, breast tenderness, headaches, and joint or muscle pain
  • Problems sleeping
  • Trouble concentrating
Treatment is lifestyle changes, antidepressants, and oral contraceptives.

It occurs when tissue similar to the endometrium (the lining of the uterus) is found outside the uterus on other parts of the body. 
It affects girls and women during their most productive years, and can impact all aspects of their lives – school, careers, finances, relationships, and overall well being.
Generally, endometriosis is found in the pelvic cavity. It can attach to any of the female reproductive organs (uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries), the uterosacral ligaments, the peritoneum, or any of the spaces between the bladder, uterus/vagina, and rectum.  Endometriosis can also be found, though less commonly, on the bladder, bowel, intestines, appendix or rectum. Symptoms may include abdominal pain, heavy periods, and infertility. 
Treatment options include pain relievers, hormones, and surgery.

Premenstrual Syndrome
Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) is a group of symptoms linked to the menstrual cycle. PMS symptoms occur 1 to 2 weeks before your period (menstruation or monthly bleeding) starts. For some people, PMS is just a monthly bother. For others, it may be so severe that it makes it hard to even get through the day. PMS goes away when your monthly periods stop, such as when you get pregnant or go through menopause. PMS often includes both physical and emotional symptoms, such as:
  • Acne
  • Swollen or tender breasts
  • Feeling tired
  • Trouble sleeping
  • Upset stomach, bloating, constipation, or diarrhea
  • Headache or backache
  • Appetite changes or food cravings
  • Joint or muscle pain
  • Trouble with concentration or memory
  • Tension, irritability, mood swings, or crying spells
  • Anxiety or depression
Many things have been tried to ease the symptoms of PMS. No treatment works for every woman. You may need to try different ones to see what works for you. Some treatment options include:
  • Lifestyle changes
  • Medications
  • Alternative therapies

Menorrhagia is the medical term for menstrual periods with abnormally heavy or prolonged bleeding. Although heavy menstrual bleeding is a common concern among premenopausal women, most women don't experience blood loss severe enough to be defined as menorrhagia.
With menorrhagia, every period you have causes enough blood loss and cramping that you can't maintain your usual activities. The signs and symptoms of menorrhagia may include:
  • Soaking through one or more sanitary pads or tampons every hour for several consecutive hours
  • Needing to use double sanitary protection to control your menstrual flow
  • Needing to wake up to change sanitary protection during the night
  • Bleeding for longer than a week
  • Passing blood clots with menstrual flow for more than one day
  • Restricting daily activities due to heavy menstrual flow
  • Symptoms of anemia, such as tiredness, fatigue or shortness of breath
Treatment can include iron supplements and birth control contraceptives.

Dysmenorrhea is the medical term for pain with menstruation. There are two types of dysmenorrhea: "primary" and "secondary".
Primary dysmenorrhea is common menstrual cramps that are recurrent (come back) and are not due to other diseases. Pain usually begins 1 or 2 days before, or when menstrual bleeding starts, and is felt in the lower abdomen, back, or thighs. Pain can range from mild to severe, can typically last 12 to 72 hours, and can be accompanied by nausea-and-vomiting, fatigue, and even diarrhea. Common menstrual cramps usually become less painful as a woman ages and may stop entirely if the woman has a baby.
Secondary dysmenorrhea is pain that is caused by a disorder in the woman's reproductive organs, such as endometriosis, adenomyosis, uterine fibroids, or infection. Pain from secondary dysmenorrhea usually begins earlier in the menstrual cycle and lasts longer than common menstrual cramps. The pain is not typically accompanied by nausea, vomiting, fatigue, or diarrhea.
Treatment is oral contraceptives and anti inflammatory.

Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome
PTLS symptoms are more wide-spread and involve other areas of the body not commonly associated with female reproductive organs. Women with Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome symptoms often report extensive symptoms involving many different areas of the body. These symptoms can include migraines, joint pains, hair and nail changes, skin changes, abdominal pain, and many other symptoms. There are many attributed Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome symptoms. 
The most predominant symptoms are:
  • Heavier periods and Painful periods 
  • Hot flashes
  • Irritability and Mood swings 
  • Insomnia
  • Decreased sex drive 
  • Anxiety and  Depression 
  • Memory changes 
  • Headaches 
  • Brittle nails and Hair loss 
  • Feelings of dread/apprehension
  • Itchy skin 
  • Joint pains
  • Vertigo/dizziness
Treatment can include sterilization reversal, hysterectomy and hormone replacement.

Tilted Uterus
In most women, the uterus tips slightly forward (anteverted), toward the bladder, but in some women, it tilts backward (retroverted), toward the spine. A retroverted uterus may be caused by an underlying condition, such as endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease (PID). And these conditions – not the angle of the uterus itself – can make it harder for you to get pregnant. They can create scar tissue that may make it more difficult for the egg to get through the fallopian tube to unite with the sperm.
No treatment available

Ovarian Cysts
Ovarian cysts are common, especially with woman who still get their period. They’re solid or fluid-filled pockets in or on your ovary. Most of the time they’re painless and harmless. You might get one every month as part of your cycle and never know it. They usually go away on their own without treatment. Cysts are also common when you’re pregnant. A cyst becomes a problem when it doesn’t go away or gets bigger. It can become painful. There’s also the possibility of cancer, but it’s rare. The chances go up as you get older. Most ovarian cysts are small and don’t cause any problems. When there are symptoms, you might have pressure, bloating, swelling, or pain in the lower abdomen on the side of the cyst. This pain may be sharp or dull, and it can come and go.
Cysts usually go away on their own but in some cases birth control pills will need to be prescribed. In rare instances surgery is needed.

Asthma and Allergies
Asthma is a condition in which your airways narrow and swell and produce extra mucus. This can make breathing difficult and trigger coughing, wheezing and shortness of breath.
For some people, asthma is a minor nuisance. For others, it can be a major problem that interferes with daily activities and may lead to a life-threatening asthma attack. The same system that helps protect you from infections, your immune system, can also be responsible for your worsening asthma. You may notice that at the same time you have that runny nose, watery eyes and sinus congestion, your peak flows are lower, you are wheezing more, and you may experience more shortness of breath. The immune system normally protects you against foreign bacteria and viruses. In asthma and other allergic diseases, the immune system may be the cause for your worsening symptoms.
Asthma can't be cured, but its symptoms can be controlled
Asthma signs and symptoms include:
  • Shortness of breath
  • Chest tightness or pain
  • Trouble sleeping caused by shortness of breath, coughing or wheezing
  • A whistling or wheezing sound when exhaling (wheezing is a common sign of asthma in children)
  • Coughing or wheezing attacks that are worsened by a respiratory virus, such as a cold or the flu
Signs that your asthma is probably worsening include:
  • Asthma signs and symptoms that are more frequent and bothersome
  • Increasing difficulty breathing (measurable with a peak flow meter, a device used to check how well your lungs are working)
  • The need to use a quick-relief inhaler more often
  • Treatment can involve the use of cortisteriods, leukotriene modifiers, and long acting/ short acting beta agonists
An allergy is a reaction by your immune system to something that does not bother most other people. People who have allergies often are sensitive to more than one thing. Substances that often cause reactions are Pollen, Dust mites, Mold spores, Pet dander, Food, Insect stings, and Medicines. Normally, your immune system fights germs. It is your body's defense system. In most allergic reactions, however, it is responding to a false alarm. Genes and the environment probably both play a role. Allergies can cause a variety of symptoms such as a runny nose, sneezing, itching, rashes, swelling, or asthma. Allergies can range from minor to severe. Anaphylaxis is a severe reaction that can be life-threatening. Doctors use skin and blood tests to diagnose allergies. Treatments include medicines, allergy shots, and avoiding the substances that cause the reactions.

So there you have it! My whole list of conundrums. Pretty fucked up, I know! I have to take on daily to semi daily basis: an Anti depressant (Zoloft), a Beta Blocker (Tenormin), a Sedative (Sonata), 2 short acting Bronchial inhalers (Proair HFA and Ventolin HFA), Nebulizer medication (Albuterol), Nasal Spray (Flonase), leukotriene receptor antagonist (Singulair), antihistamine (Loratadine), Epinephrine Injector (EpiPen), Cortisteriod (Prednisone), and an Anti Inflammatory (Naproxen).....  To some it up, I probably suffer from a whole lot more than any one has in their entire lives. Some the medications I take above are as needed like my Epi Pen and inhalers, but most all of this is a daily thing. I refuse to go on Oral contraceptives and I definitely refuse to have a hysterectomy. I have thought about have Tubal reversal Surgery though. Only problem is insurance doesn't cover it and it's well over $6000. That's money I just don't have. You can also see how a lot of these disorders actually tie into one another. Now I think you have a better understanding of why I say my body hates me and why you shouldn't judge someone on outer appearances. You never know what that person is going through underneath all those layers. 

Tuesday, June 20, 2017

What you should be teaching your children about manners and respect.

A few weeks back my son did something that made me give pause. I took him with to go shopping. As he was opening up the door to the store, he never glanced back to see if anyone was behind him. He just opened he door for himself and walked in. I was directly behind him and had the door shut in my face, due to his inconsideration. Also there was an elderly couple coming in directly behind me. I was very embarrassed and shocked at his behavior. I had a long talk with him on his behavior and how that is going to change for the better.

See, I know I raised him right. I taught him the value of using manners. I taught him to never look down on others. I taught him to always look for the good in each other. I taught him to respect his elders, never talk back, open doors for others, etc.. So If I taught him all that, then why did he act this way?

In part I think it's society. According to the Daily Mail a growing lack of adult authority has bred a 'spoilt generation' of children who believe grown-ups must earn their respect. It's becoming a me, me, me generation. They are in their own heads and no real cares in the world. When they don't show consideration for other people, it's simply because other people have no relevance in their world. 

The other part is due to parents having busier schedules than yesteryear. Some parents work sun up to down and barely see their children at all. As a parent you hope that you are teaching your children to behave in a respectful manner, but sometimes it falls to the waste side. We need to be teaching our kids those magic words: Please, thank you, you're welcome, I'm sorry, may I, and excuse me. 

Sending handwritten notes has some how become a thing of the past. Why is this?

When your child gets a birthday present, or a graduation gift, they should really be writing a note to the sender for picking out an item just for them. It's all in the acknowledgement. It doesn't have to be some lengthy letter. Short and sweet works. Simply use the senders name, in the body of the letter thank them for the gift (be specific) and how it will be used or what type of use you will get out of it. Anything works. You just want to let them know you appreciate the effort they have gone to in giving you that item. Then sign your name. Hand deliver or send in the mail. That's it. If you have little ones a simply wording or 2, from you as the parent works on their behalf, but be sure to add something from them such as a thumbprint, or giving them the pen to "sign" their name. It's the effort that counts.

We are not teaching our children the most important manner of all: showing and treating others with respectChildren learn by example. Show kindness to others and your children will pick up on that. Speak in a kind and gentle voice. If a child hears yelling and bickering all the time, that's exactly what they will do. You are your child's teacher. When talking to another person give them your full attention. It's the same with children. If you ignore them when they are trying to have a conversation with you, then they will learn that, what they have to say isn't important. Above all respect your elders and the disabled. Open doors for them, offer up a seat on the bus to them, let them go ahead of you when ordering food... This goes for all adults. Show courtesy to everyone. You lead by example. If your child sees that, it will become second nature to pull out a seat, or open doors for others. 

Obviously these are a few things that I noticed, so because of that, I'm setting out on a mission. Starting in July I'm going to do 30 good deeds for 30 days. I'm going to get my own children involved in these deeds. I'm going to post what happened as a weekly series. There are a few rules though: has to be kid friendly, can't be costly, has to work around my tremendously busy schedule and can't involve needles or blood.  

Some ideas I'm working on are paying it forward, participating in community events, donate clothing, write notes to local organizations thanking them for their hard work, and donate to the local animal shelter. This are just a few ideas, but I need more suggestions. What good deeds would you like to add to my list? Drop your ideas in the comments box below.